dear lady manners: I have a best friend of 27 years and I’m so frustrated with her. Every time I invite her to her dinner or event she expects me to pay for everything she has gone so far as to ask me for loans, groceries etc.
I’m a nice person, so I would lend her money to buy groceries if I could. Her she gets very angry and says she is not in a position to pay me back financially she has a really good job and makes really good money when I confront. I am a mother that is single only income and never much. There is one time I inquired her for gas and she went ballistic she stopped conversing with me she wasn’t helping anyone financially I was.
She moved in with her sister, rented just $300, and financially supported her 27-year-old son.I stopped helping her completely and don’t give in anymore after she said. She doesn’t want to lose a friendship of 27 years, but she doesn’t want to be her friend if she just asks for money. Help me!
We can all have more friends if defined by longevity (rather than warmth, kindness, or interests that are common as an example).
Miss Manners mentions this simply because none for the actions you describe declare that that is someone you should be in a relationship with for 27 days, aside from 27 years.If she is wrong and also this person has other qualities that are endearing repeated requests for money should be categorically refused, directly and without resentment. I can’t lend you money for your groceries. “
: My daughter considered my reaction to the incessantly chatting office cleaner disrespectful.
“D.” is the young man who cleans our office. They regularly have lunch at the time that is same i really do. I paid attention to this personal chatter for around 30 minutes non-stop, recounting to 3 differing people the salad I ate the other day and my blameless roommate to my troubles. I’ve seen this person continue to get angry even after walking away from the chatter that is crazy
The other day, Mr. D asked me the way I was doing, and I also replied, “I’m fine, thanks a lot.” Used to don’t respond to the relevant question because I needed to get back to work. My daughter believes she should have extracted herself her D. .Washingtonpost.com/adviceWhich of us is more polite?Miss Manners.comlet’s after I asked how call them
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